First a little background. One of my grandfathers started a mortuary in
Hardin, Montana just over a hundred years ago. It is still run by family,
currently one of my cousins. My father had many occupations, including
being a mortician.
When we begin planning for a funeral, one of the first decisions is a
choice of wanting burial or cremation. It is important to put a letter with
your choice with your estate planning documents. That helps the family
be confident in doing what you wanted.
I remember a local doctor who donated his body to the medical school.
Certainly organ donation seems a good idea. That can save lives.
I think a funeral service or a memorial service is important to the family.
We seem to all go through the grieving process in different ways and
times. A service of some sort seems appropriate for the survivors.
A few folks plan their funeral in great detail. Who to preside, what
songs to sing, etc. My problem is I have so many favorite songs.
Planning like that can also help the family.
Some folks have prepaid their funeral costs and related expenses.
A few have ‘earmarked’ a certain amount to pay for the wake or the
celebration of life expenses. It could be a small savings account
that is payable on death to the person(s) you want to be in charge.
I think a little planning done now can be beneficial in the long run.
It is also appropriate to discuss your goals and desires with your
family members to help them through the various decisions.
Did you hear “Flowers always make people better, happier, and
more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul.”
Luther Burbank (1849-1926) Horticulturist.